How I Started Winning As A Mom

What is your win as a mom/parent? In everything in life there needs to be a clearly defined win. Otherwise how do you know what you are working towards? My win has always been that my kids would know, no matter what happens or what they’ve done, I love them!

I recently made a daily to do list of high priority and low priority things that I need to be doing on a daily basis. The low priority things are things like dishes, laundry, clean one room, water the plants, and practice piano. The high priority is spend time with God, read my Bible, and show love and encouragement to each of my children and my husband.

Its only been a couple of days, but I’m already dumbfounded with how lacking I am in this area. My husband is good at drawing me away from my crazy self and spending time with me, and my littlest one is adept at demanding of snuggles when she needs them. So I feel like I have hit their love languages pretty well most days. However with my 6 year old and my 4 year old it has been a different story. Most days I find the only one-on-one “I love you” time is the 5 minutes I spend tucking them in at night. I say that i want to be so close to them and for them to never doubt my love, but how am I showing it?

My 6 year old has been going through some “shaping” phases. I feel like every day is a work day, and, yes, he needs that, but I think I need to ease up every now and then and just let him know I love him, warts and all. My 4 year old is an quiet introvert, with moments of insane chattiness. The moments she demands my attention are always the worst possible moments. I’m elbow deep in giving the dog a bath or carrying endless piles of firewood. So sadly she gets only half of my attention or sent away feeling very unloved. It hurts me to even think of what a terrible job I’ve been doing in this area. But Im determined to do better. Im going to love on my kids at least once a day, every day, rain or shine!

So how about you? What’s your win? Are you winning every day?

2 thoughts on “How I Started Winning As A Mom

  1. I definitely struggle with this. Specially, for Zach… The attention he wants is often something that is hard for my love language to give. He’s generally not the cuddly type like my baby girl. I have decided for me, I need to wait to do school work until after the kids are in bed. That’s my goal right now. To give them my full attention after work. I also, need to spend way more time with God than I am. Maybe just taking a few minutes before jumping into school work would be a good time. Thanks for your honesty in your blog. Very refreshing to see someone else walking through this life and have similar things they are dealing with, and real Solutions on how to do better.


    1. Your honesty is amazing!! I think a lot of our struggles in daily life can be boiled down to “I need to spend more time with God.” If we turned to that solution first, then maybe our problems would get solved much quicker! Keep up the good work! You’re an amazing MOM!!!


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