What is your win as a mom/parent? In everything in life there needs to be a clearly defined win. Otherwise how do you know what you are working towards? My win has always been that my kids would know, no matter what happens or what they’ve done, I love them!
I recently made a daily to do list of high priority and low priority things that I need to be doing on a daily basis. The low priority things are things like dishes, laundry, clean one room, water the plants, and practice piano. The high priority is spend time with God, read my Bible, and show love and encouragement to each of my children and my husband.
Its only been a couple of days, but I’m already dumbfounded with how lacking I am in this area. My husband is good at drawing me away from my crazy self and spending time with me, and my littlest one is adept at demanding of snuggles when she needs them. So I feel like I have hit their love languages pretty well most days. However with my 6 year old and my 4 year old it has been a different story. Most days I find the only one-on-one “I love you” time is the 5 minutes I spend tucking them in at night. I say that i want to be so close to them and for them to never doubt my love, but how am I showing it?
My 6 year old has been going through some “shaping” phases. I feel like every day is a work day, and, yes, he needs that, but I think I need to ease up every now and then and just let him know I love him, warts and all. My 4 year old is an quiet introvert, with moments of insane chattiness. The moments she demands my attention are always the worst possible moments. I’m elbow deep in giving the dog a bath or carrying endless piles of firewood. So sadly she gets only half of my attention or sent away feeling very unloved. It hurts me to even think of what a terrible job I’ve been doing in this area. But Im determined to do better. Im going to love on my kids at least once a day, every day, rain or shine!
So how about you? What’s your win? Are you winning every day?